Love is one of the greatest mysteries in life. Sometimes you fall in love, completely and unexpectedly and sometimes you are waiting for love, impatiently and desperately. Love, a big word actually, something I can always write about, at any time, as you might have noticed, if you have read some of the articles on my Blog. But this time it is different.
True love, that is basically the topic for this article. And somehow I am always captured in this topic and its magic and above all writing about it from my point of view, but this time, my dear readers, it is not just all about me and my opinion. I asked several friends of mine to share their opinions with me, and they did, open and above board. So this time it is more kind of sharing and combining opinions and thoughts and hopes and dreams and analyzing the most mysterious of all kinds of love…true love.
So my friends L. the charming Brit-boy; and M. one of the most wonderful people on this planet; answered my questions and allowed me to quote them here, completely and absolutely pristine. My question actually was, if the term of true love really does exist, or if it just something that society made up and drum into our minds to give us something to actually aim for in life. Is it something that just happens in movies? And does this romantic themes, we see almost everywhere, set an image in our minds that no real love can fulfill, actually? Why is being on your own a taboo in today’s society and why is a couple the natural born enemy of a single?
With these questions and doubts in mind, I sat on my couch and in front of the laptop and realized that this time, it has to be different. And so I started to text message M. exactly these questions and I received back an email twenty minutes later with his answer to my thoughts of doubt.
M. on true love: I do not necessarily think it to be a bad thing to be on your own, at all. I always did good on my own, actually. Some people tensely search for a partner or a relationship, because they feel incapable of being alone. But I do believe, that if you do search for a relationship, tensely, then you easily think of being in love. To my mind every human being needs to be free, open and capable of living his/her life without constantly thinking about loneliness and desperately needing a partner. Life isn’t all about finding the ideal partner. I think, true love exists…for everyone and I do not think, that it is something drum in by society who made us believe that this ‘phenomenon’ exists. I definitely believe in true love. When true love appears you recognize her. A lot of people think to be in love, feeling true love, at almost every partner they have in their lives. I have never been like that. True love isn’t something describable in one or two simple sentences. It’s something that you feel and recognize. When it’s there, it’s always there and just feels absolutely right. I think it to be of a great importance to listen to one’s heart and one’s mind when it comes to loving someone. You will recognize true love when it’s there, always. It is not something you can generalize, at all. Everyone experiences it in his/her own kind of emotional range and shape.
That’s why I love this guy. He is so romantic. Hopelessly. Isn’t that cute?
While writing Mails and text messages with M. I have been online and wrote a bit with L. on IM and asked him exactly the same thing. This boy is unbelievably intelligent and I enjoyed reading his statement.
L. on true love: Well initially I think of it logically. I recognize it as a social construct, but then I question what is true love? The definition of love is entirely fluid, it’s an invisible, immeasurable concept which you really cannot entirely define. Then true? What does true actually mean? For something be true it must be consistently accurate and genuine which I don’t think love is. Then I have to remember I’m a dreamer and as I’m human, I am subject to idealism. I would like to think true love exists, but it’s like religion – you can never be sure. I don’t think society necessary drum it into us, I think it’s the basic human instinct of caring and the need to be cared for is why the concept of ‘true love’ exists. But then again, if you see it as a social concept – it’s even more fluid. True love can be something completely different to one from another. So therefore it exists, so yes I believe in it but not necessary what it stands for.
Little L. with the typical British charm captured me in his definition while I sent a message to Mr.TechnicalAdvice that I am currently working on a very interesting topic and that he should be excited about my next piece. Well, he always is.
So, what do you think about true love? Does it exist in its romantic value or is it just an issue made of Hollywood glamor clouds and society?
True love…exists, in my mind and you know that I believe in it with my whole heart, but do you? Your opinions on this topic are highly appreciated, my dear readers.