‘When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautios. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there’s no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?’ [Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City, Season 6, Episode: The Catch]
Why do people try so hard to find someone to catch them before they are barely ready enough to save themselves? Is it really that hard to be a single in this world or is it just an unspoken law that singles are lost souls and dead until they found someone to hook up with and to marry afterwards? When did it become a crime to be single and when did it become law to mingle?
Since we can think we are being taught that in life you can be only happy if you find someone to be happy with, because that is the only possibility of leading a socially accepted life – with a family and kids. But as the gays came out of their pink boxes and women learned to be independent and people start teaching themselves the tales of life, it all came to a change and that is what we called Millenium – okay actually the Millenium was something we should have oversleput but there truly has been a remarkably change in the way people see single girls and boys. Sometimes they are a threat and sometimes they are being commiserated.
It is an unmistaken fact that once you are in a relationship you stop living the single boy’s/girl’s thought and start living the ‘I have to look if WE have plans’ – thought. Once you are in a realationship you do not care about those who commiserated you as a single, because you are one of those who see singles either as a threat or as something to be pity about, because you have someone to sleep at, someone to run to, someone to shower with and someone to get fucked by.
This goes out to all those who aren’t singles, because I am not a single anymore too [surprise, surprise], but please stop commiserating because there is nothing bad about being single. And there is nothing bad about not falling and not getting catched by someone – because singles nowadays are strong enough to catch themselves.
Live it. Free-spirited.